How To Make A Wish Come True

Posted by Duane Cummings on 06/09/2016


Like many other children, I spent part of each summer going on trips. Often that meant traveling to spend time with distant relatives. During one such visit, my cousins and I wanted to go to an amusement park, but were told “NO” because of the cost. Without thinking I blurted, “I wish we were rich.” To which my aunt instantly replied,

“Well "wish" in one hand and crap in the other, then see which one fills up faster.”

That moment had a huge impact on me. For the rest of my childhood, even when I was blowing out my birthday candles, I was uncomfortable making a wish. 

About ten years after that incident, there was an instance where I heard a child “wish” for something, and without thinking, I responded with the “wish in one hand” phrase. The moment I finished, an older man who was listening said, 

“There’s nothing wrong with wishing, but to make one come true, you must put that empty hand to work.”

His statement shifted my thinking. Since that day, I’ve had the privilege of seeing many amazing wishes come true in both my personal and professional life, as well as the lives of so many other people.

You see, “making a wish” is what many people do when they don’t think they have the ability to get what they want on their own. But the truth is, we all have the power to make our wishes come true. 

There’s no trick or magic to becoming your own “Genie in the bottle,” and you don’t even have to wear ruby slippers. In my experience, there are 5 simple steps to making a wish come true for yourself or someone else. They are easy to follow and if you'll give it a try, you might just be amazed at the results.

Step #1 Create The Right Environment

Whether personal or professional, the stage needs to be set and people need to know it’s okay to “wish.” They also need to understand it’s the first step, not the last.

If you’re doing this exercise with family or friends, begin the discussion during a meal or at a time when the mood is light and everyone feels upbeat.

When you're in the workplace, the participants must be comfortable and empowered to fully participate. If the company doesn’t have an appropriate space, find a suitable off site location to meet.

Step #2 Make A Wish List 

Yes I said, “list.” Not just one wish. Write as many as you can think of...and then write some more.

To help with this process, you should restrict the use of electronic devices. Sure, some people may want to utilize a laptop or phone, but go back to the basics of paper and pencil. Writing thoughts down helps bring them to life.

Due to time restraints, you may have to allow people to create the list at their convenience, and then get back together to review.

The goal is "TO BE FREE FROM LIMITATIONS," which might be difficult, because we often talk ourselves out of what’s possible, due to limiting beliefs. The main rule is…DON’T EDIT---JUST WRITE as many wishes as possible and we’ll focus on the “how” later.

Step #3 Discuss, Encourage, and Narrow Down The List

After the list is complete, begin discussing each one and “why” they made the list. During this exercise, identify the top three and share some of the reasons those particular wishes are at the top. Remember, it’s still not the time to be concerned about “how” to make them come true.

#4 Focus On ONE Wish

Now it’s time to pick ONE! With your group there to help, discuss the top three and then select ONE. After you’ve decided on the most important wish, begin to make a list of what would need to happen in order for that wish to come true. This will become the foundation of your blueprint and it should address anything that would keep you from fulfilling this wish.

For instance, at one point my top wish was to visit Hobbiton in New Zealand. It’s the movie set where “the shire” from the The Lord of the Rings movies is located. As simple as it may sound, some of the action items for that wish were to ensure the attraction would be open, my wife and I both had valid passports, and to investigate visa requirements for visiting that country.

By focusing on ONE wish at time and listing every step that needs to be completed in order to fill the wish, you’ll quickly begin to realize that what may have at one point seemed impossible, can often become a reality in a short period of time.

Once you know what to do, it's time to put that "empty hand to work." Begin "doing" each one of the items on your list and make sure you also...

#5 Share Your Wish

Unlike the normal birthday custom of keeping your birthday wish to yourself, sharing your wish is extremely important. By doing so, you allow others to get involved and support you. Think about The Make A Wish Foundation. This organizations mission is to grant the wish of every child diagnosed with a life-threatening medical condition. If they don't know what the wish is, they definitely can't help.

It's not rocket science, but for some reason people look at wishes coming true like making a trip to the moon.  In reality, it's not that difficult. I hope you’ll give this exercise a try, and whether you wish for yourself or someone wish is for yours to come true! 


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